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Both stages of life are a time of significant developmental change. Toddlers and teens alike experience significant body and mind development that can have them behaving in ways you have never seen.
But the thing is, that is what they need from us most of all; to understand. Imagine if your son came home from school after spending the day coping with peers calling him names and throwing his back pack on the toilet block roof.
Imagine then if he were to say nothing to you about it but instead went straight to his room.
Would you want to have the opportunity to talk to him about it? How about if your daughter was struggling with her peers pressuring her to take drugs, would you want to know?
If your daughter fell pregnant and was frightened about the huge choices she would soon be making, would you want her to be able to come to you for help? Responding to these questions is confronting and uncomfortable. We would all like to pray and hope that our children will never find themselves in these situations but we would be naive to think that our children are completely immune from the perils of adolescence.
In my time as a health and physical education teacher I have been privileged to teach, mentor and guide students through their teen years in many differing ways and in a number of roles.
Of course, teaching these students was my primary role and I really enjoyed that aspect of my job, but what if I told you that each of the students in the scenarios above chose not to talk to their parents?
What if I told you that in each of the cases, the only person they felt they could talk to was me — their teacher? I have since lost count of the number of students that, burdened with what must have felt like the weight of the world, broke down during a conversation after class and confided in me.
From friendship issues to relationship concerns, pregnancy scares and drug experiences, these students spoke of their fears, their regrets and their inability to find their way past it. There were, of course, times where I was legally obliged to report their stories to my superiors and from there the children had access to the professional support they needed.
But many times these children simply needed a shoulder cry on; someone to hear them and to understand. So where did their relationship break down? When did it get to the point that these children no longer felt comfortable talking to their parents about their deepest fears, their hurts and their pain?
When did their problems get so big that they felt the only person they could trust to talk to about them was their school teacher? Well, I can tell you honestly that in most cases it was not because these parents were uncaring, unloving or bad parents.
In most cases it was quite the opposite. These were in fact, strong, capable, got-it-together parents who would do anything for their children and raised them to have good morals and high values. They were adoring and hard-working and would consider themselves great role-models for their children.
Many of them were high achievers, diligent, popular and outwardly happy. They cared about their life and had goals and aspirations.
They also had a lot of love for their parents. You see, in a well-intended, concerted effort to ensure their children are raised to be upstanding members of society, many parents use punitive, disconnecting discipline techniques.
My time spent with thousands of teenagers over the past decade has had a significant impact on the parenting pathway I have taken.
As my children grow I want them to know that no matter what happens; no matter what trouble they find themselves in, they can always come to me. I want them to know that I will support them, guide them and love them no matter what. I know that if you have read this far, this is probably something you would want for your children also.
Teaching through guidance rather than by fear encourages children to remain open about their mistakes rather than hiding them away.
Keep them both safe and show compassion and understanding to both siblings as they both have their own demons to deal with. Why Timeouts Fail and What to do Instead 2. Similarly, when a child is feeling emotional about a particular circumstance that may seem trivial to us as adults, acknowledge and validate their feelings.
It IS a big deal to them so it is important we show them that we understand and empathise. So, how do we avoid creating an approval-based relationship?Dr.
Marvin Marshall an American educator, writer, and lecturer is widely known for his program on discipline and learning and his landmark book, Discipline Without Stress® Punishments or Rewards How Teachers and Parents Promote Responsibility & Learning.
My Memories Of My Childhood Memories - Our hotel room was quiet, the smell of cleaners and air fresheners filled our room.
I could hear people in the halls joyfully going about their day. Children naturally demand a lot for anything. Parents, many times, face a condition whether they have to accept or reject such requests.
Many parents probably would say “No”, but some people argue, however, the otherwise. Being too permissive for their children is somewhat considered as a problem, but I personally it is not because of .
Adolescence (from Latin adolescere, meaning 'to grow up') is a transitional stage of physical and psychological development that generally occurs during the period from puberty to legal adulthood (age of majority). Adolescence is usually associated with the teenage years, but its physical, psychological or cultural expressions may begin earlier and end later.
Aug 05, · This may seem counterintuitive, but praising children’s talents and abilities seems to rattle their confidence.
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